Natural Hair 101: The Beginners Guide to Natural Hair Care

Natural HairIn order to have a successful natural hair journey, you must first understand exactly what the term natural hair really means.

There are several different definitions of the term, but below I’ve provided the most common definition for natural hair, and the one that we will talk about most often on Curl Centric.

The term natural hair is defined as relaxer-free hair, which is different from chemical-free hair. Chemicals, on the surface, are often considered dangerous, but this is often times not the case at all. Most chemicals that you encounter on a daily basis are perfectly safe and harmless. For example, water or H2O is a safe chemical.

Getting Started on Your Natural Hair Journey

Black natural hair (i.e., african american natural hair) is sometimes labeled as nappy hair that needs to be corrected by a relaxer. We’ve heard of situations where women have been discriminated against in the workplace due to having natural hairstyles, which are deemed unprofessional by some employers. Others have been denied jobs or promotions because of their natural hair. Natural hair has also caused relationship issues for many couples.

Curl Centric is about helping you understand your natural hair and providing you with information and resources to naturally achieve healthy natural hair. We often interview other naturals on the blog because we want to give everyone the opportunity to share their experiences with natural hair. We often learn the most by reading and analyzing other people’s experiences. It’s also encouraging when you see pictures of other women with natural hair and hear them speak positively about their natural hair journey. These stories often serve as proof that your journey can be just as successful if you’re willing to invest the time and energy into learning to care for your natural hair properly.

The Real Reason You’re Struggling on Your Natural Hair Journey (if applicable)

Going NaturalThere are problems with some of the advice that’s typically given out online. Some natural hair advisors or product manufacturers will tell you that you need to find the perfect products (sometimes called holy grail products) or simply master a specific technique, like protective styling or the baggy method, to have a successful natural hair journey.

If you’ve tried some of these techniques and haven’t found the success that you’re aiming for, you probably know by now that you need more than generic recycled advice. That’s one of the main reasons that we built Curl Centric.

Our hair care method is based on a comprehensive blueprint for building a successful natural hair journey. It’s not designed to only provide short-term results for you, but to also build a robust foundation that will lead to a lifetime of success on your natural hair journey.

Natural Hair Blueprint: Foundation, Products, Styling and Maintenance

The Natural Hair Blueprint will be your guide throughout the course of building a successful natural hair journey. The blueprint is based on everything that we have learned over the years reading cosmetology books, scientific periodicals, performing research and by working with naturals around the world and watching their natural hair improve.

The blueprint is divided into three pillars: (1) foundation, (2) products, and (3) styling and maintenance. Each of these pillars work to help you improve your natural hair journey. This blueprint is intended to be balanced, however depending on your strengths – you may need to spend more time on certain areas of the blueprint to see real improvements in your natural hair.

Actionable Opportunities

We like to focus on taking action during your natural hair journey. You have to implement the things that we discuss to really see improvements in your hair. Taking action is the best way to receive benefit from Curl Centric. We try to thoroughly explain concepts and give you very specific ways to take action. We also encourage you to leave comments on articles and respond to comments and questions from other naturals.

Understanding Your Hair Type

We tend not to focus on hair types in our articles for one very specific reason. Regardless of hair type – there are several common things that are often overlooked that everyone needs to do in order to have healthy natural hair. At times we will write articles for specific types of hair, but keep this simple point in mind – you must drink plenty of water, reduce stress, wear protective styles, limit the amount of heat you put on your hair, wash your hair regularly and more regardless of your hair type. In addition, many people have multiple hair types or categorizations on their head, so we tend to focus on those types of things here instead of your hair type.

Advice That Will Help You Start Your Natural Hair Journey

There is no right or wrong way to go natural; the important thing is that you are going natural. If you decide to transition to natural hair it’s important to know that the line of demarcation is where your natural hair and relaxed hair intersect. You’ll definitely notice a difference in the texture of your natural hair and your relaxed hair. Relaxers weaken your hair, leaving it dull and damaged over time. So, the difference should be fairly obvious.

You’ll learn that your hair will tell you what it needs and it’s critical that you pay attention to what it is telling you. Selecting your initial set of natural hair products is important and many naturals spend quite a bit of time trying new products in an attempt to find the perfect products (i.e., holy grail products) for their hair. You must get to know your hair to understand which products will work best for you.

My advice to you: Start a natural hair journal and begin documenting everything that you do to your hair. This will help you understand over a period of time what works and what doesn’t work for your hair. The key is to focus on what works for your hair and start to eliminate the things that don’t work. This process will help you select the right hair products and finalize your natural hair regimen.

The Truth about Hair Shedding

Some experts estimate that shedding more than 100 hairs per day is perfectly normal. About 10% of the hairs on your head are in a resting phase (telogen) and those hairs shed (exogen) after a period if time (generally 2 or 3 months). The other 90% (roughly) of your hairs are growing at any given time.

Hair growth occurs in cycles consisting of four phases: Anagen (growth phase), Catagen (transitional phase), Telogen (resting phase) and Exogen (shedding phase). Hair grows at different rates for different people; the average rate is around one-half inch per month. Due to a short active growth phase, some people have difficulty growing their hair beyond a certain length.

My advice to you: Don’t worry too much about your hair shedding unless it seems truly excessive. If your hair shedding does seem excessive, you should start by investigating the following areas: tight hairstyles, diet and nutrition, current medications, stress, illnesses, nervous habits, alopecia areata and hormonal changes. Several of these issues may require the professional diagnoses of a medical doctor to determine the root cause of the hair shedding.

Prevent Breakage and Split-ends

Your hair is dead material, which is the reason why you can treat it with strong chemicals, cut it with scissors or apply heat to it without feeling a thing. The only problem with that is – since your hair is not alive, it cannot repair itself. Damage to the hair must be trimmed away or grown out. For example, there is not a permanent cure for split-ends. There are some conditioners that can essentially patch split-ends and make them less visible, but over a period of time those split-ends will reappear. The only way to permanently get rid of your split-ends is to trim them away. You should absolutely never burn away your split-ends.

Hair breakage is the most common cause of hair loss. Tight hairstyles (ex. tight ponytails and braids) can break off the hair and damage the hair follicle. If your hair constantly breaks you will need to identify exactly what’s causing the breakage and eliminate the culprit to prevent further breakage. The most common causes of breakage are heat, harsh chemicals, tight hairstyles and rough treatment.

My advice to you: Hot appliances, like flat irons, hair dryers, curling irons and pressing combs, are popular, but often lead to serious hair damage because their high temperatures can result in brittle, dry hair that breaks easily – especially when they’re overused. If you decide to use heat, then you should use measures to minimize the likelihood of irreparable heat damage. However, it’s important to understand that it’s impossible to completely protect the hair from heat damage. If an appliance is hot enough to burn your skin, then there is a legitimate chance that the appliance will cause significant damage your hair.

Make sure that your hairstyles aren’t overly tight, stay away from chemical processes that change the structure of your hair, and handle your hair with care. Too-frequent manipulation (combing, brushing, tugging, pulling, etc.) can lead to increased breakage.

Health, Nutrition, Hair Vitamins and Supplements

Generally speaking, the same nutritious foods that are good for your body also promote stronger, healthier hair. If you don’t eat a healthy diet, your hair could suffer. It’s important to mention that your hair doesn’t contain vitamins – it is not a living structure. If you’re eating a balanced, nutritious diet there is very little benefit gained from taking hair vitamins and supplements. If you simply concentrate on eating low-fat proteins, dairy products, fruits, vegetables and whole grains you can help your hair reach its full potential without supplements.

The United States Department of Agriculture have established dietary guidelines for Americans (Chapter 1). Although, according to most surveys, the average American isn’t familiar with the guidelines and doesn’t manage their dietary intake accordingly. For those who aren’t eating a well balanced, nutritious diet, or have a medical condition or imbalance, you might need vitamins and supplements to help your hair reach its full potential. You should consult your doctor to determine if a multivitamin is right for you.

My advice to you: Eat a healthy, well-balanced, nutritious diet and save your money on hair vitamins and supplements unless you have a medical condition or imbalance.

NutribulletCurl Centric recommends the Magic NutriBullet High-Speed Blender. It’s designed to help you easily add more fruits and vegetables to your daily diet. Kira and I start the day with a smoothie every morning from our NutriBullet. Click here to learn more about the Magic’s NutriBullet.

10-Day Green Smoothie Cleanse by JJ SmithFor a wonderful list of smoothie ideas and a great plan for living a healthier lifestyle, we use the New York Times bestselling book “10-Day Green Smoothie Cleanse” by JJ Smith. You can lose up to 15 pounds  in 10 Days and improve your energy level. Use this link to learn more about JJ Smith’s Green Smoothie Cleanse.

Exercise

There is no evidence that exercise has any direct benefit on the health of your hair. However, there are many other benefits of exercise including weight control, mitigating health conditions, and boosting your energy among other things.

My advice to you: Exercise regularly because it reduces stress and promotes general health – which indirectly can have substantive impacts on the success of your natural hair. Kira and I are huge fans of the Insanity Workout Program, but it’s definitely not for everyone. It’s an extremely intense, high impact workout program for people that are already in pretty good shape. Many low impact programs are effective too. Check out our recommendation below.

Shapeshifter Yoga Program

Fitbit Charge HR Wireless Activity Wristband, Plum, SmallCurl Centric recommends Fitbit Charge HR Wireless Activity Wristband to track steps, workouts, heart rate, distance traveled, calories eaten, calories burned, floors climbed and overall active minutes. It’s designed to help you improve your overall physical activity, which can be done without hours of crunches, cardio, and high-intensity gym workouts. Click here to learn more about the Fitbit Charge HR Wireless Activity Wristband.

Shampooing

The most often purchased natural hair product is shampoo. The main problem that I see with shampoos is that there are so many different types; one for every type of hair and/or scalp condition. It’s easy to get confused when choosing a product as simple as shampoo.

My advice to you: Choose products that are designed to be gentle on your hair. Also, many hair care experts recommend a pH-balanced shampoo to prevent excessive dryness and hair damage during the shampooing process.

Natural Hair Shampoos

Product ImageDescription
As I Am Coconut Cowash Cleansing ConditionerIf you prefer to co-wash, we like As I Am Coconut Cowash Cleansing Conditioner. For the natural newbies, co-washing is a process of washing your hair with a conditioner, instead of using a traditional shampoo. Many naturals also rave about how great this product smells.
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Tropic Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil ShampooThis shampoo is formulated with shea butter, contains only 100% natural ingredients, and doesn't include sulfates or alcohol. The ingredients are Jamaican Black Castor Oil, Essential Oils Of Pimento, Lavender And Lemon, Aloe Vera, Rosemary Extracts, Organic Saponified, Organic Coconut Oil, Olive And Jojoba Oils, Vegetable Gum/Glycerin Extract.
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Shea Moisture Raw Shea Restorative ShampooThis product is an organic raw shea butter moisture retention shampoo that is sulfate-free and includes the following ingredients: Water, Decyl Glucoside (Sugar beets), Shea Butter, Aloe Vera juice, Argan oil, Panthenol (Pro-vitamin B-5), Rosemary extract, Sea Kelp extract, Vitamin E, Honeysuckle flower & Japanese Honeysuckle.
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How often should you wash your hair?

Each head of hair is different, so there is really no correct answer. However, you can tell when you’re washing your hair too much if it starts to get dull, which means it’s time to scale back on the shampooing. By over-washing your hair, you can wash away your hair’s natural moisture which helps your hair look healthy. If you’re not washing your hair often enough, you can have product build-up which could negatively impact your hair.

My advice to you: When washing use lukewarm water, because hot water can strip the scalp of sebum, which is the protective oil that acts as a natural conditioner and gives your hair its shine. When you create your initial natural hair regimen, begin by washing your hair once per week. Record how your hair responds for a few weeks, in your natural hair journal, and make adjustments to your regimen as necessary.

Conditioning

Conditioners are intended to deposit protein or moisture into the hair strand to restore the hair’s strength, give your hair body and to protect your hair against possible breakage. The effects of conditioners are only temporary. The term conditioner is often used to describe many different things. For example, there are finishing rinses, cream rinses, protein conditioners, hot oil treatments, deep conditioning treatments and leave-in conditioners – and I’ve only named a few.

My advice to you: Start by regularly conditioning your hair after shampooing and having a deep-penetrating conditioner every month. You should document how your hair responds in a hair journal and make adjustments as needed. Also, buying really expensive products isn’t necessary, but you should beware of products that are extremely inexpensive relative to the competition.

Natural Hair Conditioners

Product ImageDescription
Elucence Moisture Balance ConditionerElucence Moisture Balance Conditioner, which contains olive oil and coconut, is designed to condition your hair without being heavy on the strands. The conditioner is also glycerin free, silicone free, and sulfate free. It can be used in various ways, including for co-washing and as a leave-in conditioner.
Click here for more information
Shea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative ConditionerShea Moisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner with Sea Kelp, Argon Oil, and Shea Butter was formulated for dry, damaged hair. It's important to note that this product contains natural ingredients which often vary in color and consistency.

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Aussie Moist 3 Minute Miracle Moist Deeeeep Liquid ConditionerThis product, which contains mostly natural ingredients of Australia like aloe and jojoba, consistently receives rave reviews from women with natural hair. It also has a coconut like smell, which most women seem to really like. The product is called the "3 minute miracle", because it's designed to work in minutes.
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Styling Your Hair

Protective styling is critical to the success of your natural hair journey. When we use the term protective styling on the Curl Centric blog, we’re referring to incorporating more “protection” into your overall natural hair regimen. The lack of focusing on protecting the hair is often the reason that several women suffer from excessive breakage and fail to grow their hair to their desired length.

One way to incorporate more protection in your natural hair journey is to utilize protective hairstyles. A protective hairstyle generally requires minimal upkeep, gives you the opportunity to moisturize as needed, and it keeps the ends of your hair safe and tucked away – protected. You can successfully grow your hair quite long with the appropriate selection of products, proper styling techniques, and general handling/maintenance.

My advice to you: Look for ways to incorporate more protection into your natural hair regimen. Be sure that you’re being gentle with your hair at all times. I also recommend finding a few protective hairstyles that you like and frequently incorporate them into your natural hair regimen, so you can protect the ends of your hair. A significant component to growing long hair (or more accurately retaining what you’ve already grown) is mitigating hair breakage to retain the hair that you currently have and protective styling improves your ability to accomplish this goal.

Troubleshooting

During your natural hair journey, there are many different things that you might have to correct: dry hair, product build-up and dandruff are just a few.

Generally speaking you should refer to your natural hair journal when you’re experiencing a problem with your hair. It’s the primary guide to correcting your hair problems. You should begin asking yourself questions until you determine the potential root cause of the problem.

For example, have you changed anything about your regimen recently? Are you shampooing more often? What about taking a new medication? Did you recently start a stressful job? When was the last time you applied heat to your hair?

Use a root cause approach to correcting the issues that you identify. This troubleshooting technique is based on the premise that you can solve many problems that you’re having with your hair by addressing (correcting or eliminating) the potential root causes, as opposed to only addressing the symptoms.

For example, dry hair can be caused by external factors like harsh shampoo, chlorine, applying heat to the hair, too much sun or wind exposure and hard shower water to name a few. On the other hand, dry hair can also be caused by internal factors such as medications, nutritional deficiency or medical illnesses.

My advice to you: Identify the root cause of your “hair problem” and address the root cause.

And finally, we’re here for you as you progress through your natural hair journey. Feel free to leave a comment or let us know if you have any questions.

The Science of Black HairCurl Centric recommends The Science of Black Hair for new naturals who want to quickly understand how to care for their natural hair, how to grow longer hair and how to get started with a healthy product regimen. This book is a well-research, reference guide for ladies serious about hair care. Use this link to learn more about The Science of Black Hair.

187 Comments

      • This is my second big chop in 5 years. The first time I big chop in 2010, I was totally clueless. I was still using excessive heat, so I had no curl pattern. That led me back to relaxers. In 2015 I wanted healthy hair, so I went on different sites taking in all kinds of information. I transitioned for 4 months before I big chopped again. The 2 different textures wasn’t working for me. I thought I was doing really good with taking care of my hair. I cowash 2x a week and deep condition every week, and I also do hot oil treatments. My problem is when I cowash my hair and deep condition and once it’s air dried it feels oily but looks dry.( I have not used any heat since April 2015). Last night I cowash my hair and I was noticing more of my hair is losing its curl pattern. Am I doing to much to my hair. I try to do protective hairstyles, but I can’t seem to leave them in no longer than 1 week, before my scalp itches excessively. I don’t know if I’m lacking in protein. I does incorporate 2 egg yolks into my deep conditioner and honey with a few different oils. Please help me. I don’t want to give up my hair, but I feel myself getting frustrated because I don’t know if I’m doing my regimen right.

    • This is my 2nd time reading this..I actually just printed this out to keep in my bag (in the case I’m too darn lazy to just simply go to this webpage and view it from there). Truly helpful and important information…love it!!

  • Thank you for this article. It has calmed my nerves about hair lossand other things. I also have learned that I knew a few things that I didn’t know I knew. If that makes sense. In other words this article confirmed a lot of things for me. Again, thanks.

  • Very, Very informative. Great information and by far, the best site for a natural hair jounry that I’ve come across. 5 *****

    • Those are very kind words and I hope that the community continues to be an asset for you. Please continue reading articles, making friends, and giving us your feedback. If you would like to see more or less of something, just let us know.

    • Aliyah – Wow! That made me smile. We really want people to enjoy this site, so definitely take Jael’s advice regarding providing your input on where we go next with the site. We love to hear feedback on what you would like to see more or less of in the future. This is your community.

      Kenneth

  • I have been natural for about a year now. I have really I mean really thick hair. It’s not nappy, but its very thirsty!!! I’m frustrated and two seconds away from putting a relaxer back in. Tired of spending money on products expensive and inexpensive and nothing seems to work. HELP!!!

    Well laid out format!!!! An easy read, which is always a plus!!!!

    Tanisha

    • Hi Tanisha – I hope you’re doing well today. I can definitely understand being frustrated with your hair. I hope things have gotten better for you. Can you explain what your current natural hair regimen is?

  • Great article, very informative. I’m pretty new on my hair journey (only been transitioning for about 2 1/2 months) and I have a pretty specific question.

    Due to some rather unfortunate salon perms I got in the past, my edges are weak. If I pull my hair back for more than a few days I notice thinning. Most of the protective styles that I see involve having the hair pulled back/up. This is great for protecting ends, but is there a protective style to protect edges? Right now I have my hair in twists and loose.

    • Hi Teflon Mom, this is a great question and I would suggest a two things: When you twist your hair, instead of twisting them to the back or side, twist them so they will hang in the front, then connect them creating swish effect. If you are able to flat twist, flat twist the front part of your hair, ever so loosely to not put stress on your hairline. Is it your entire hairline across the front or certain sections that are delicate? Also, you may want to refrain from excessive combing and not brushing this area- only do so when absolutely needed. Keep me updated on what worked or hasn’t worked for you.

      • Thanks Jael – it’s really just the temples that are weak, and one side more than the other. I don’t know how to flat twist just yet so for now I’ll try the individual twists in a sweep and see how that works.

  • Outstanding article. It is good to be able to finally find excellent natural hair information and feel like I’m able to trust the text as well as respect the individual which posted it.

    Awesome article. Thanks Kenneth.

  • I’m beginning my natural hair journey again (was natural for about 13 years now starting over) and I’m glad I’ve come across this site and information (thanks for introducing me via Twitter). The information I learn here and my renewed sense of purpose will be helpful in my journey as well as that of my daughters. Thanks.

  • Hie guys! I have been natural for a year or so my hair is very thick and thirsty.How do you guys manage to make your hair soft and manageable?I am in SouthAfrica,thanks in advance.I need hair products for the most kinkiest african hair,pliz don’t say oil,no oil works on my dry hair.

    • Hi Nomvula!
      If your hair is dry, my 1st question is why?
      If you have hard water, you can start with purchasing a water softening system to combat the water issue.
      Also, you may want to read our articles on porosity.
      If you find that your hair is “gets wet” really easily and dries extremly fast- try clarifying with Giovanni Triple Treat Tea Tree shampoo (also on our resouce page), condition as you normally do and as a final rinse, mix 1 tbsp OR 1 cap full of apple cider vinegar and 2 cups of water in a bowl and pour it over your head.
      You mentioned that oils do not work for you, have you tried shea butter? You will use the shea butter as a sealer to keep the moisture trapped in your strands.
      Is your hair dry from root to tip or just at the tip?

  • Thank you for all this useful information. i just started my natural hair journey and i really need all this information.

  • Hie Jael,thanks for the tips.my hair its just thirsty I don’t know why.but usually at the ends.I have thick/bushy or a lot of hair.I have not tried shear butter I can’t find it anywhere I am in Joburg,I even got tired of looking for it.where can I get the shampoo you mentioned above?

    • Hi Nomvula! You are welcome for the tips. If you are not wearing protective styles and keeping your ends tucked away, you should start. You are probably experiencing high porosity on your ends. If you are interested, email me what products you are looking for and I can price them here and ship them to you. Email me for details . Put Product Shipment in the subject line.

  • I really appreciate this site…you have a lot of great info. Currently, I have ended my transition a couple of weeks ago when I cut off the remaining relaxed ends. I transitioned for 14 months. I thought my transition was over…think I was wrong. Half of my hair is nice and curly (right side). The ends are curly…it’s just beautiful! And then on my left side..I don’t know what happened. It’s slightly wavy but the ends are straight! I just want to find out where it all went wrong and what I failed to do. I thought it might be heat damaged but wouldn’t that be visible on both sides? Will it all eventually be the same? It was heart breaking to have made this discovery bc I desperately wanted to do the WnG’s or at least have my hair roughly in a uniform curl pattern. Plz help!

    • Hi PrettyBrownEyes,
      First, I want to say congrats on your big chop!

      However, the difference in texture can be a from a number of things.

      For starters, you mention heat damage- it is possible to have heat damage in one area and not another. Heat damage does not have to be uniformed, it can be in random places on the strand.

      Another explanation is curl pattern and texture. I personally have at least 3 that I can identify… lol My front is straight on the ends and the longer it goes, the straighter it gets. I cut a few inches about 3 years ago because I thought it was heat damaged, but it wasn’t. It is still strand in the front. I just accept the straightness and work with it. Now my crown area has a coarser texture, the most shrinkage and the tightest curls.

      You may not have done anything wrong, give yourself time to adjust to the big chop and experiment with what your hair can do.

      Will it ever be the same, probably not but if that is how your hair grows (meaning no heat damage) I wouldn’t expect it to change.

      To wear a wash and go, you can coax a curl using clips. Swirl the hair like you would do a pin curl and clip it in place with a mental clip. I use this method for my front straight parts. Also, I would put on my satin cap as to give it shape.

      I honestly don’t know many naturals who have a uniform curl pattern.
      I say give it time and work with what you have.
      Keep me posted on your progress!

      Jael

  • I’m in love with natural hair. I wear lots of twist styles and fro’s but have been thinking about locs. Is that smart for someone with delicate edges.

  • I cut my hair last fall to go natural and i have been keeping it covered with weaves and braids. now i want to start taking care of my hair, I need help

    • @temi This article is really the best place to start. Do you have any more specific questions that we may be able to help you with?

  • I transitioned for 7 months and then I BC’d on my own…big mistake. My hair was a mess. My only option at 10 pm was to relax it…couldn’t go to work with my hair such a mess. Before I transitioned I wondered what people would think of my natural hair, but quickly came to embrace it and not care what others thought. After I relaxed it, I wondered what people would say about my relaxed hair…I’m more ashamed of this straight crap than I ever felt about my natural hair. I MISS MY FRO!!! Never again will I relax…never!

    • Hi Natural E-Fab – Thanks for sharing your story. I would love to know more about the specifics of what went wrong when you big chopped. Lets chat when you have a chance.

      Thanks
      Kenneth

    • Hi Missqeetee – On average, it is estimated that hair grows about 1/2 inch per month. This means that (if you’re the average person) your will have the possibly of 1/2 inch of growth per month that will be natural hair. It really depends on how long your hair is to determine how long it will take to grow out the relaxer (along with the growth rate). Take your current length and divide it by 1/2. This will give you a good estimate. This doesn’t account for the amount of length actually retained, which could be less than 1/2 inch per month.

      Kenneth

    • Generally speaking, we recommend washing your hair once per week. Then, you should begin to adjust depending on what your hair needs. You will ultimately find the sweet spot for your hair. I can’t definitively say that washing three times per week is too often for your hair, because each head of hair is different. However, if it’s not working, then I do recommend making some changes. I also caution you to review your entire regimen, not only how often your washing your hair. Make sure you understand the hair care practices that you’re using (including products, heat and various techniques). Finally, it’s often beneficial for new naturals to start a natural hair journal. You can begin documenting how products/techniques work for you.

  • What is natural hair?
    I stopped perming my hair more then a year ago.

    However, I straighten it right after I wash and let it dry naturally.

    Is that the same?

    • MyNewHair – Yes, we typically define natural hair as relaxer free hair, so using that definition you definitely have natural hair.

  • Hello, I am transitioning and I really do not want to do a big chop, I have had chemicals in my hair for well over half of my life, while I know and understand this will not be an easy journey, is there anything you could give me advice wise that will shed some light while on this journey. I have seen people natural and its pretty, but most times they tell me that they have big chopped, I have a really nice length of hair and I do clip my ends often, but is there anything else that you could recommend that will help me along the way. My hair is a good mix of wiry and spongy if that makes sense, my mom has natural hair that is a little thick and curly and my dad has really fine curly hair and I guess I am the one in between with the spongy wiry combination. HELPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Hi Chyta –

      Congrats on your decision to go natural. Since you’re newly natural, this article is definitely the best place to start. As far as going natural, you can do that a couple of different ways: big chop or transition. Now you have already made the decision to transition – which is perfectly fine. Many women decide to transition and go on to have very successful natural journeys, so please don’t think that you have to big chop (in the traditional sense) to have pretty natural hair.

      I would recommend that you read our How to Go Natural guide, there is a link in the right sidebar. It will show you how to start a regimen, create a journal, and much more. You can also review the resource page (see the navigation menu) to select a set of starter products. After you read through those resources, please us know if you have anymore questions. Finally, good luck. I’m really happy for you and I’m sure you’ll enjoy your natural hair. Take care.

      Kenneth

  • Nice article! 🙂 I have a comment/question… So I recently did the big chop and I read in the article that I should protect my ends. The only problem I have with that is my hair is short and I don’t like updo hair styles while my hair is so short. I don’t think they fit my face. I been wearing a faux hawk and a curly fro. Is this bad for my hair since I’m not doing anything to protect my ends?

  • I really like the article could you put in some protective hairstyles that are authorized by the military? The reason alot of women serving in the military don’t go natural and suffer breakage from constantly wearing braids and weaves is because we think we have no choice. Yet our hair must be off the collar and can’t be viewed by superiors to be bulky or unkempt. ANy help you can lend to this would be appreciated.

    • We’re working on building a style section for the site, but it’s not quite ready yet. I would suggest that you try wearing updos for your military duty. @Jael spent quite a few years in the Navy and can speak directly to some styles that may be acceptable by military standards.

    • Hi TC,
      When I was in the military, I was relaxed. However, my hair was quite long and I kept it in a sock bun, flat bun and I wore braids. it was definitely something that was friendly to wearing my cover. However, I would definitely suggest taking a look at women who have longer and shorter hair and observe how their hair is kept/styled. Be sure to look at all races, not just one.
      Another option is to definitely consider having a longer transition period until you are comfortable with styling your hair per the military rules and regs. Have you tried curly styles? To me, curly styles are easier to maintain and they are PT friendly 🙂
      You mentioned breakage. Aside from the breakage from weaves and braids, they are probably experiencing breakage at the line of demarcation (were the relaxer meets the natural hair). This is definitely one of the weakest points of the hair during transitioning. If this is the case, I would definitely suggest deciding whether you prefer to wear your hair straight or wear it curly. This will help minimize the stress that is put on maintaining more than one type of hair on the head. Also, keep the hair conditioned as much as possible.
      I would love to speak with you more and want to stay updated on what styles you come up with.
      So, keep me posted.

      Jael

  • Hi i am a newbie, i started my jouney in Janurary,and my hair is doing some strange things. i dont really understand it, my hair is very dry from scap to the end. I went on youtube acouple of days ago and there is so much info out there. What is the deal with the ECO style gel and the kinky curl gel. Help please. Thanks

    • Hi Ladyd – I hope you’re doing well today. What do you mean you you what is the deal with ECO style gel and kinky curl gel? Can you add more context to your question?

  • Hello all. I am planning for a very large Natural Hair event in Washington DC and am looking for community support of Naturals and Natural supporters. I can give more information if anyone is interested. Please email me. God Bless. I too have a few questions, but will save them for later, I am still trying to see how this forum stuff works, lol.

  • Greetings Everyone,
    This site is very detailed & so I must say thank you! I’ve been chemical free since Feb. 2011 and I did the BC on Oct 2011 n now I’m loving my natural 2 the fullest! I have my good & bad hair days but with trial & errors and the advice from this lovely website, I’m sure that I’m going to be alright! lol.. Being a military spouse & a mother of 3 (my schedule is so busy 2 where I don’t have hrs 2 do my hair like I use 2) with my natural I can do quick hair styles & be on the go within minutes!!! My 4 yr old daughter is natural & her thick hair is half way down her back! I’m aiming to get back there one day & with patience & great care of my hair & body, I shall get there! I look forward from hearing from others! 🙂 I will post my natural fro soon! 🙂

    • Tina – Thanks for sharing. I’m very glad that you find the site useful. Something to consider for you is to create a natural hair journal. I don’t talk about it much in this article, but having a journal can be very beneficial in the beginning as you learn more about your hair.

      • Im getting tired of nappy hard hair my hair wont grow. Its frustrating. Mostly all the girls with straight and soft hair have long hair. Nappy hair is short won’t grow why is that?

        • Hi Zhiara,
          The first step that will help with your frustration is to change your mindset from nappy, hard, won’t grow to being able to accept your hair and discover its beauty. Long hair is a combination of internal and external components. Generally, as long as you are relatively healthy (internally), your hair is growing because growth is an internal process. Externally, specifically, your hair habits, have to align with your hair goals. If you are constantly snipping and trimming, roughly handling, over manipulating, heat damaging, etc… your hair will never reach it maximum potential.
          Zhaira, join the newsletter if you haven’t you will find the information helpful!

          Thank you for your comment!

          Kira

    • Hi Tina,
      If you were able to care for your daughters hair and it has grown down her back, surely you can apply the same techniques to your hair as well and have great results. 🙂

      Thank you for the wonderful compliment and we hope that you continue to find the information useful. If you have any questions, please let us know.

      Jael

      • N~ Jael you are absolutely right!!!! The time & care that I put into my daughters hair, I must def can put that into my hair & more! 🙂 N~ thx u guys 4 being so friendly & responding back so quickly(that’s always a plus in my book)

  • Greetings, great site, very informative and detailed. I did the BC
    Sept 2011 and I am loving being natural and relaxer free. I have my natural hair notebook of how to do, what to us, products I’ve used of what works best for me and what doesn’t. Thanks for such a great site.

    • Wnada – Very nice. Hope the natural hair journey is working well for you. Congrats on your BC.

      Take care.
      Kenneth

  • This is very informative…but I am brand new to this natural thing and all this looks foreign to me. I transitioned for about 4 months and I did my BC on 4/13 and my hair is dry and dull. I use the oil/water mixture everyday and still dry/dull hair. is there anything that I can do?
    Thanks in advance!

    • Lydia – Congrats on your BC. I hope your natural hair journey is going well. Sometimes it can take a little time to figure out exactly how to care for your hair. There are several things that could potentially cause dry/dull hair. Let’s talk specifically about your hair care routine. Which products are you using within your regimen? How are you caring for your hair?

  • I just wanted to say that I love this article and that I am new to natural hair transition. I was always told that my hair was so beautiful and long and to never cut it but I was the only one who didn’t like my long hair. So after I went off to college I started transitioning for about 6 months(no perms or flat irons) and then got my hair cut in Feb 4,2012 . I did not get the big chop but I only have a little more to go(I have a good bit of hair left).I love my hair and love being different from people with the traditional straight hair. My mom hates my hair she says it “naturally nappy” but she doesn’t know any better. My question is my hair is somewhat curly but what are some products to really define my curls and not be frizzy. Some parts of my hair is really curly and then some of it doesnt curl like I want it to. What can I do?

    • Tanisha – Are you still in the process of transitioning from relaxed to natural hair? You mentioned that you didn’t big chop and still have some hair left, were you referring to relaxed hair (ends)? Just curious if you’re struggling to manage the multiple textures because you still have relaxed hair that hasn’t been chopped off or grown out. Let me know…thanks.

      Kenneth

  • Good morning, your Natural Hair 101 was very encouraging and helpful.I’m really looking forward to starting my Natural hair journey. Thanks

  • Hi, thank you so much for this article. I just did the big chop on Friday, and I’m very nervous and cautious because I want to do this right. So I’m very happy I found this website and this article.

    • Hi Benite,

      You are very welcomed! Congrats on the big chop!!

      Keep in mind that starting any new adventure can cause nervousness; however, I want to encourage you to give yourself room to error and experiment to find what works for your hair. This is the beginning of a journey, enjoy it and have fun along as well.

      Stay encouraged!

      Jael

  • Wonderful article Kenneth. Who would I contact about people who would be interested in participating in a Natural Hair Expo coming up in 2013. There is a panel discussion and we would love to include a variety of people.

    Thank you,
    Dominique

  • Thank you so much for this site I am new to going natural, the information is very powerful & inspiring. My daughter went natural last year, I was so impressed with her courage and strength at 19, where in NYC long hair (relaxed hair) seems to be a big thing, she gradually cut her long hair ( length was to her breast), and now its so beautiful, that I decided to do so and I really love it. I am so curious about my new texture, co-washing and various natural oils to use, I wish I had done this years ago. I’m in this for the long term can’t wait for my hair to grow out as long as it did when I had the relaxer. Keep writing and thanks again!!

    • Hi Dana! Thank you for your kind words and we are happy that our information is helpful. Congrats on your journey and double congrats to your daughter – that is very inspirational. Continue to discover your hair and you will be amazed. I would love if you would keep us posted on your journey.

      Jael

  • Great article. Like most sites you say to use protective styles. With a twa this is not possible. My hair is grey and has multiple textures. I have gone through several products & have not found any that I love but are okay. Most of the curl puddings leave my hair crunchy, so those went out the window. I wash weekly and spritz with h2o, leave in conditioner and oil every day. Any suggestions?

    • Hi Pamela!
      The great ability of a twa is that the style within itself is a protective style. The hairs are tightly together packed down and the hair is not brushing the shoulders. So in essence, a TWA is a protective style within itself. The idea is to be sure to protect your hair at night and keep it moisturized and supple and using protein when you need to. You didn’t mention protein. How are you incorporating protein into your regimen.

      I hope this helps,

      Jael

  • Hi! I found this article to be very helpful. I’ve been thinking about going natural for awhile now but I have a few concerns because I’m on a few medications that affect hair growth. When I first began the medication my former stylist cut my hair (which was longer at the time) but ever since then my hair hasn’t been able to grow nearly as much. Do you think going natural would help?

    • Hi Dee,
      I am excited that you found the information helpful and you are in the right place.
      I share that if you are taking medication that is affecting your strands, not relaxing your hair is definitely a benefit. I would definitely bing or google your medication to see what others experiences have been. Speak with your physician as well as they can offer a different perspective. I know that certain blood pressure meds can affect your hair but so can having a baby or anything that make your hormones increase or decrease.

      I hope this helps! Please let me know if you have anymore questions.

      Jael

  • Well, today is the BIG day, the BIG cut. Imwas going to transition, but I decided to go with the BIG cut after my hair on the right side kept breaking. I hear stories about employment, but I have been on my job for 30 years it would be crazy for them to mess with me.

    I am going to the shop to get it cut and trimmed. It happens at 3:30pm on May 30, 2013.

    I feel good going about what ia am about to do. I am going with the short cut…. I will post how I feel after the BIG cut happens.

    • Well, that means you’re getting very close to having it done….roughly one hour and 30 minutes away. You sound very excited, so we’re very excited for you. Please be sure to tell us how it goes. If you want to do a story with pictures and discuss your experience, we’d be happy to do that. Just let us know.

      Kenneth

  • Just did my big chop two nights ago,so ready to start this natural hair journey!.This site is so far helpful in my time of need.

  • I have a concern, I swim often and I was wondering what I can do to reduce or stop the negative results of chlorine in my hair?
    Should I wash and deep condition after a swim?

  • pls. thank you for adding me to your blog
    my hair is very hard and i find it difficult in combing it, my hair is not growing well as it should, and also can u teach what methods i can use for my hair to grow faster and longer. pls. can u help me out.
    thank you.

    • When you say that your hair is hard, can you provide more detail. Also, can you discuss which products you currently use on your hair? It is correct to assume that you’ve already gone natural?

  • Thank you so much! This articled was much more informative than the people I interviewed, especially since I have dandruff extremely bad. I was confused about what moisturizers to use. Again, thank you so much.

  • This information is so useful and I’m glad I accidentally found your website. I’m going to try the natural hair products you listed and see which one works best for me. My question is that–I’d like to know where I can go in Washington, DC to learn how to flat twist and two-strand twist my own hair? It cost $65 – $85 to get this done with just my own hair (with no extensions or added hair) at local natural hair salons. I read Dr. Phoenyx Austin’s book, If You Love It, It Will Grow and it seems that the key to our hair is to keep it moisturized because it is so dry.

  • My hair is natural but I had been braiding it for over 5 years and it became very weak, light with lots of split ends and most of my hair on the hairline came out I cut it 2 months ago to the size of 1 inch. It is now grown to almost 2 inches and gaining body but quite soft. What can I do to make it harden abit. I hate it that soft.

    • Hi Jamish!
      Your hair can definitely benefit from adding protein treatments to your regimen for strength and structure. Namely, Aphogee type products. If you decide to add protein, come back and let us know how it worked for you.

      Kira

  • Hi, this article was very helpful! I’ve never had a relaxer, but I’m wanting to get a new look with the curls. I’m confused on how to maintain the curls and keeping the moisturized daily. Do you moisturize your hair everyday or every other day? Does that depend on your hair? This is the part I’m stuck on.

    • Hi Shelby,
      Thank you for your comment! Depending on the look you are going for, will greatly determine if you want to add a water base product or an oil base product to your hair. When my hair is in a wash & go type style, I can add water based products. However, when I am wearing a stretched style and I do not want shrinkage, I will use an oil based product, staying clear of wetness.

      I would love to know what you decided to do- Keep us posted,

      Kira

  • I’ve been natural for a few years, however, I’m having a hard time with it. First of all, I was never given the gift of doing hair lol. When I was younger, combing and brushing my hair was all I did so I wouldn’t know how to do any protective styles. Also, sadly, I’m still trying to develop a routine for my hair (trying to find the right products, hairstyles etc.) I NEED HELP!!!!

    • Sorry I pressed the enter button by accident lol. But is there any advice you can give? I one shade away from perming my hair! thank you! 🙂

  • Hi Hazel- Oh my goodness… I think we are cut from the same cloth! Styling hair has never been my forte’. However, I have learned to do a few quick styles that I think are super. I think what has helped me with my natural texture is knowing how to braid, twist and using bobby pins.
    I have had several requests for styles and I am working on getting some together and posting.
    Kenneth wrote a great article about creating a regimens, check it out!

    http://www.curlcentric.com/natural-hair-products/

    Keep me posted on your progress and what you decide-

    Kira

  • Hello! I’ve been transitioning ever since December (2014). Well, that’s the last time I remember using heat. I don’t know when the last time I had a perm was, so I guess I’ll count this as my 2 months going on 3 transitioning. This has been very helpful on the shedding, moisturizing, and more! But I’m quite sure my relaxed hair is over-relaxed and heat damaged due to my mom not knowing much, lol. I’ve looked into the medicine and was a bit concerned. Some people say Biotin really doesn’t have an effect on them, and I’m scared to take Hair Infinity due to my young age. Any help, please?

    • Hi Senaya-

      Thank you so much for commenting. Heat damage is havoc on natural hair. Depending on the severity of it. Now, there is no way to UN damage the strands at best you can strengthen them. Protein treatments like Aphogee 2 Step are best at stopping breakage in its tracks. As you continue to transition to your natural hair use heat less frequently so further heat damage isn’t caused. Learning to style your hair without using heat will be beneficial for you. Here is a link to the Aphogee Treatment: http://amzn.to/1F8BqQs

      I hope this information has been helpful!

      Kira

  • This article was very informative. However, I wish you would have wrote something about how often to clip/trim my ends. I am still new to being natural and am still learning EVERYTHING. I still have not figured out what type of hair I have. I learned of porosity through this article and I believe I have low porosity hair.

    What I have learned about my hair so far is that my hair NEEDS a lot of moisture. I tried a few products and have found that Shea Moisture makes my hair feel really dry and brittle like, Carol’s Daughter is ok, I thought it was great until I tried Cantu’s products. Cantu is WONDERFUL! Originally, the thought of not washing my hair and simply co-washing seemed nasty and unclean. Now, I LOVE to co-wash, especially with Cantu. I have also learned if I do not wash my hair at least once a week my hair will fall out VERY BADLY. When I say bad I mean it looks like I am standing on a hair rug in the shower. It is everywhere, on the walls, on the shower curtain, on my face, on my shoulders and other body parts, it is a mess. That is when I tried to co-wash and I washed my hair every 2-3 days and bam very very little shedding. I also use the leave in conditioner. I did not know that product is not supposed to remain white on your hair after application. This too let me know that I have low porosity hair. Side note: my hair is extremely thick, so the extreme shedding is not noticeable what-so-ever.

    I wear my hair in cornrows everyday with a wig on top. I will spray Carol’s Daughter hair milk refresher spray on my hair then apply any moisturizing creme I may have to give it moisture. Those cremes could be Cantu leave in conditioner, Carol’s Daughter Black Vanilla hair sheen, Kera Care Butter Cream, or Cantu’s Tea Tree & Jojoba hair & scalp oil.

    I have yet to trim my ends since I did the big chop. I was trying to do the transition technique of simply growing my hair out. But that was horrible working with two different types of hair (permed and natural). So I went to a beautician and had her cut all my perm off. That was around May/June 2014, it is 8-10 months later. Now, that I am writing about it it seems like it is about time I get my ends trimmed.

    Also, my hair is around 5 inches long. I used my cell phone to measure my hair, lol, iPhone 5c. It is a finger nail length longer than the phone. I have not found any beautiful natural styles to try. All the beautiful styles are for long or very long natural hair. I do not care for an afro, ON ME. I have to be careful of looking too masculine that can be very easy for me. Right now and to me, I look a bit manly when I wear my afro. However, I do enjoy wearing my afro. But, I am married and that is not what my husband married. My hair is on my body and blah blah blah. But, that is changing things that attracted my husband to me. That is like my husband being attracted to very large Nicki Minaj like butts and I go get a butt reduction. So, going from straight relaxed (and unhealthy) hair to natural was a year long discussion/fight with my husband. But, he saw how passionate I was about going natural. So, I still need to keep it feminine and attractive all while being natural.

    Last thought, I have a very difficult time trusting people in my hair. When I was on the creme crack it was hard. I had a lot of HORRIBLE experiences. I do not want to go through this with my natural hair that I have been actually paying attention to and learning to love for almost a year now. I do not want someone to mess it up. I worked hard on these 5 inches. Also, I have dusty like brown hair. I want to color it wither a richer brown or maybe black. Is that a bad thing? My natural hair color makes my hair look as if it is dirty, dry, damaged and unhealthy. But, it is not, it just looks that way. It took me to go natural to realize that my hair is not damaged it is just an ugly brown. Can you suggest how to go about finding a naturalist beautician that doesn’t want you to pay with your arm and leg? I live in Anne Arundel County (Maryland near Baltimore).

    I hope I did not write too much. lol. Thanks for the article and website.

    • OMG, Natalie, you are hilarious!!
      Thank you for your reply. No, it is definitely not to much- *wait
      til you read my reply*
      I appreciate your honest feedback and I love your story<3

      I'm humbled that Natural Hair 101 was helpful.

      I apologize that it didn't include information on trimming.
      But I can give you some insight, right now.

      My thoughts on trimming...

      Trimming is one of those personal choices because the
      frequency can change depending on who you ask.
      There is the mind set of trimming on a frequent schedule,
      around every 6 weeks or so, or some predetermine criteria.
      This frequency is thought to prevent damage before it starts.
      The hair is trimmed even though there is no visible damage.
      But if growth is your goal trimming frequently feels counter-productive.
      However, if you wear your hair straight and need your hair to be even,
      trimming frequently is more ideal and appealing. If you are scissor happy,
      trimming often can result in taking off more than intended.

      On the other hand, trimming less often and when there is visible damage
      will allow you to trim damage that is seen and or felt. Particularly,
      single strand knots and split ends and cut right above it. If your hair isn't worn
      in a straight style, then having an even hemline probably isn't a big deal.
      If you have a length goal, trimming less frequent is more appealing
      because over time, you will actually see the progress. Hair that
      is kept mostly in protective styles would benefit from the occasional trim.

      Which method suits you best; trimming often or trimming on occasion?

      Coloring your hair darker is not bad. Generally, people run into problems
      they color it too light.

      I am very protective about my hair as well. I completely understand where
      you are coming from. You will find that no one knows your hair as well
      as you do. Basically, I suggest interviewing them. The key is to not need
      a stylist but to want one because you don't want to do it yourself. However,
      if you need to, you will. Needing one creates a recipe for settling for less
      than what you generally would. Here is a blog post that is for looking for
      as stylist to big chop you and I think it is applicable when looking for a
      stylist in general. One thing that will never get old is a recommendation from
      a repeat customer that is satisfied. So talk to other naturals in your city
      who have color. They may recommend a stylist, then you can start the
      interview 🙂

      I think I have answered your questions. If I didn't, let me know and I will.

      I look forward to hearing more about your journey and the things you have
      encountered 🙂

      Kira

  • I find this article very helpful and informative. I’ve been thinking of going natural for awhile now but little scared because I have the most kinkiest thick hair. Too many relaxers and weaves is breaking off my hair. Do I get the big chop off? Thank you.

    • Hi Phephe K!
      I completely understand your hesitation for starting your journey as you describe your hair as the most kinkiest. What you are feeling and experiencing is very real and honestly, it is very common.
      It is very simple for me to say, “Girl, accept your hair and it will all be better because all hair is good hair.”
      The thing is, your natural hair decisions and journey are going to be very personal and going forward, you have to start learning that whatever texture and curl patten you have, it is yours and there is nothing wrong with it.
      I would only suggest big chopping when you are ready and if you are ok with having short hair. However, if you decide that you are not ok with big chopping, you will need to transition to natural hair.
      Take a really good look at your hair, write down what is contributing to your hair breakage. What is it about the weave and relaxers that’s breaking your hair? What things can you change in how you handle your hair? Once you address these things, you can start doing them as you transition.
      Ultimately, the decision to big chop or to transition to natural hair is yours.

      Please keep us updated with what you decide!

      Kira

      • Hi! I have recently started to think about going natural again as I feel relaxing it all the time and getting appointments is long. I’m also going to university soon so I will be away from home. My mum said I shouldn’t big chop my hair I should transition. I was wondering if I keep plaiting it and so on will the relaxed ends gradually fall off? Or would I have to trim it? And how long from transitioning will fully natural? Also what are hot oil treatments?

        • Hi, Ola-

          Congrats on your start on going to university!
          From my perspective and experience with natural hair for 8+ years, deciding to transition or big chop should be personal decisions. and here is why.
          I can tell you that transitioning is going to be hard. But guess what,
          that is based on my experience and it doesn’t mean that it will be yours.
          Because this is your journey, make sure that you deciding to transition is your decision. Also, speak with your mum (mom) to see if she will support you in that decision. It would be great if she would.
          Yes, if you continuously plait your hair, you will get more and more new growth and some of the relaxed ends will break off and the remaining relaxed ends will need to be trimmed.
          You will be fully natural as soon as you no longer have relaxed ends attached. So if you big chopped, you could be fully natural tomorrow. If you decided to transition, you will be fully natural when all the relaxed ends have either broken off or have been trimmed.

          Be sure to join the Curl Centric Community via email: Curl Centric Community email

          Kira

  • Wow..I’ve been thinking of going natural for about 3 months now but I’m so afraid because my hair has a slow growth..any advice on what I should do ? I’ve been transitioning for about 3 months without any growth should I just do the big chop once and for all or is there a way I can grow my hair faster? Please help it will mean the world to me

  • Your article is inspirational. The feedback and comments from readers also helpful. Please can I get a link to learn how to do finger curls, I am not able to watch youtube on my phone. Keep up the good work.

  • Hello
    I just stumbled upon this website this morning and I thank the heavens that I did!
    I am thinking of going natural but I have no clue on how to begin.
    I have a really long hair but I suffer from hair breakage and dandruff.
    How do I start exactly? What is the very first thing that I should do?
    I want to transition first instead of a full BC.
    Thanks for your help. And you have an amazing blog.

    • Hi Ann,
      The very 1st thing is to make a decision. See you are already on a roll!
      Transition is a game of patience. Start paying attention to how your new growth behave with products and how your relax hair behave as well. The balance is to keep the relax hair strengthen so that it does break off.

      Kira

  • I’ve started my journey! May 28th was the day I did my BC. I didn’t realize my hair was so damaged. I felt really sad and said now is the time. I come from long hair that over the years got shorter and shorter and seemed to would not grow in certain places. It may grow an inch or two and stop while the rest of my hair would grow like weeds. I’ve had short cuts before, but always with a relaxer. This took a lot of courage for me to do. I’ve kept my hair under a wig since…until TODAY!! I am proud of my short fro and once I added some eye makeup, earrings and lipstick, I realized I really like it! It felt freeing. Doesn’t mean I won’t go back to the relaxer at some point, but it’s all about treating your hair properly. This time I am neither #teamrelaxer or #teamnatural. I am #teamhealthyhair! Thank you so much for a great site.

  • I’ve been natural for 2 years after cutting my hair all my life. I hot oil once a month, treat with protein once a month too and wash twice each month. My hair is stucked! Not growing am i missing something???

  • So, I haven’t put any relaxer in my hair for a year now. As a result all of the relaxed hair dropped off bit by bit. And I’ve finally decided to go natural. After reading this article, I have learned a lot. I need you to pls tell me the exact products I need to buy to start with. I want to color my hair golden brown n treat it naturally, n I would love for it to evolve to curls. Pls advice me on products. Thanks.

  • I have just decide to stop putting perms in my hair. I will admit I am scared. I started today using Argan Products and my hair feels really good. I did notice my scalp stared to itched. So I put oil directly on my scalp and that help .Your article has been helpful. I will be doing some of the things you mention.

    • Hi Linda- congrats on your decision to stop relaxing!
      Thank you for letting me know that the information has helped you.

      If you have any more questions, please let me know.
      If you haven’t already, be sure to sign up for the newsletter!

      Kira

  • I just decided to go natural and I’ll be doing the big chop in two weeks time. I’ve transitioned for four months while doing some protective styles. The one I have on now is a twist out with my relaxed-nartural hair. But the centre of my scalp has been itching me for years and I find myself pulling at it to get some relief. What could be the cause and what can I do to remedy it? Thanks

    • Hi Mirabelle,
      Congrats on your natural hair journey and please sign up for the newsletter! Here are 2 great articles for you: 5 Benefits of Big Chopping and Choosing Someone To Do Your Big Chop

      On to your question, an itchy scalp can be caused by numerous things: Dandruff, otherwise known as seborrheic dermatitis,
      Allergy or sensitivity to hair products, including hair dye and other chemicals.
      Scalp psoriasis,
      Excessive scratching can introduce bacteria or fungus into the layers of the scalp
      Acne
      Stress and Anxiety
      Obesity
      Inflammatory and autoimmune disorders, such as lupus and hypothyroidism
      Infection and Allergies
      Head lice
      Allergic contact dermatitis or irritant contact dermatitis, such as from a hair dye
      Folliculitis (infection of a hair follicle)
      Fungal infection (tinea capitis, ringworm) or bacterial infection of the scalp
      Sunburn

      The list can be long and extensive. One immediate thing that you can do yourself is evaluate the products and techniques you use on your natural hair. I once tried Nexxus Split End Remedy
      and my scalp itched profusely non stop for 3 days. I put oil on my scalp to help, but that only gave a very short temporary.
      The only thing that stopped the itching was rewashing my hair using a shampoo and conditioner that I was familiar with and taking the Nexxus Split End Remedy back to the store for a refund.

      You mentioned that your scalp has been itching for years and I am sure that you have changed products a few
      times. With that assumption, I would definitely suggest making a derm appointment. An itchy scalp is no way to start off your new journey. It’s best to know if you are dealing with inflammation or fungus as that will help determine what remedied is best for your condition.

      Keep me posted on your diagnoses!

      Kira

  • Hi. I really loved your article about how to take care of natural hair but right now I’m transitioning from permed to natural hair, so right now my roots are curly but the rest is straight and my sister told me that my hair is dead, so I was wondering if you knew how to revive it. I also wanted to learn about the process of taking care of your hair. My hair gets dry very fast, and I tend to get split ends very easily. I use argan shampoo and conditioner but I’m not sure it’s the right product for my hair. So my questions are
    1. Why does hair get dry really fast and how you can prevent that when your styling your hair?
    2. When conditioning and shampooing, how many times are you suppose to wash and repeat?
    3. When doing a big chop (which I’m not sure about yet) how long is it suppose to get, in order to put braids in you hair?
    4. What are some styles that are good for transitioning natural hair?
    5. Is it each month your suppose to trim your hair or is that bad for your hair?

    Again I thank you for your article. You guys did a really good job and I appreciate your time. (:

    • Hi Michelle,
      Congrats on your transitioning journey and I am happy that you found the article helpful.
      Yes, your sister is right, your hair is dead. And it’s not just your hair. Hers, mine, heck
      ALL hair on our head, body, everywhere above the skin is dead. The hair on our head is alive on a cellar
      level beneath our scalp.
      So don’t think of it as “reviving” it, think more along the lines of preserving it because it can’t heal itself
      if it is damaged in any way.
      You have great questions, btw!

      1. Generally, hair that wets very easily and get dry really fast is categorized as high porosity hair. I suggest
      using protein based conditioners or
      protein treatment to temporarily mend the strand.
      Always follow up a protein treatment with a non-protein conditioner for best results.

      2. I suggest cleanse your hair until it feels clean. The type of shampoo/cleanser and products you use will
      dictate your the frequency. As a rule of thumb, your scalp should be clear from product & build up and your
      strands shouldn’t feel as old product residue is left behind.

      3. The length your hair needs to have your hair braided depends mainly on the braider. Heck, I know and have
      heard of ladies that can start a braid on a grain of rice! Imagine those rice braids being about the size
      of very small micros or zillions, depending on where you are from. Personally, I don’t have that skill and will
      need someone to have hair 4 to 5 inches of hair.

      4. Curly styles are good for transitioning hair because they will keep your textured hair better preserved.

      5. I suggest you trim your hair based on your hair goal and how well preserved your strands are.

      Michelle, you are welcome and I want to encourage you to join the newseletter, too! It will be a delight to have you on board!!

      Kira

  • Hello,I Love natural hair but am afraid to grow my own natural hair because I have what my sisters call stubborn hair,very thick and massive,and I don’t want to do the big chop.I need your advice please,

    • Hi Olamide,
      Don’t be afraid of what is yours, embrace it.
      The best way to conquer the fear of natural is with facts, action and the realization that all natural hair is not alike and the difference is the beauty.
      So my question to you is what do you call your hair? How do you define?

  • Useful information. Lucky me I found your web site by chance, and I’m surprised why this twist of fate didn’t came about earlier!
    I bookmarked it.

  • My hair has been relaxed since the end of sixth grade. Since then, it’s always been struggling to graze my collarbones. I wanted it to grow but was stuck between not really knowing how and not caring, brushing it into ponytail almost every day. (About four years of this and you can imagine how my hair looks now 🙂 I’ve been thinking about it a while, and a few people in my life went natural. That’s only added to my interest. Though I know that the results can differ, they have healthy-looking hair-a huge booster of courage.

    I want to do it but the thing is, I’m in high school. And still living under my parents’ roof. I need selling points for them. Also, mother has straight hair, which means that if I start listing my reasons for wanting to go natural, she might take offense to it. If they approve, I don’t wan’t to rush and end up unhappy having made some rash decision. Any advice on how to go about this?

    I initially started searching for repeated reputable evidence that chemical hair straighteners can cause hair loss and thinning (signs of which I’m starting to see in myself). Is there any truth to these claims? Maybe it’s stress, but nevertheless I’m interested in the answer.

    My hair is fairly dark at the roots, then turns visibly lighter shades of brown. Could this be a result of sun damage? Relaxers? Is this kind of thing bad for the hair?

    Then there’s the issue of what could be done with it if this actually happens. Transitioning would make styling easier, no doubt, but I’m fairly sold on the big chop. School starts in a month and I’m not too keen on waltzing into a place with roughly 1,000 judgemental teenagers looking at me with my hypothetical mini afro, ~surprisingly~ policy-conforming skirt (at least knee length), and bag laden with unnecessary junk. I was thinking singles but I’m not sure I can convince the rents to let me cut off most of my hair~and~ pay a hundred? dollars to get someone to do what’s left. We don’t do much weaves in my house and I’ve never expressed particular interest in this so I don’t know how they’ll react.

    And natural hair products.. There’s just a lot of stuff to try out there.

    I may be making a mountain out of a molehill but there’s so much to think about. Just thinking about this is giving me a headache. This comment is mostly a rant, no? Haha.

    Pardon the length. Well-written article.

    • Hi Rory Lee-

      Thank you some much for posting your comment.
      It appears that you have thought through your options and have come to very logically conclusions.

      As a parent, I appreciate the fact that you have taken your parents thoughts and considerations into account as you are thinking about starting your natural hair journey.

      I would encourage you to definitely communicate your desire to go natural with parents. As a parent, I believe that it is EVERY parents’ desire is for their children
      grow up with self acceptance, self love and self respect.

      Honestly, I wouldn’t try and sell them on the idea because if they think it’s a good idea, they dont have to be sold, just presented with the idea.
      Showing and expressing to them that you have a growing interest in natural hair could be enough. Plus, you will need the support of your parents as you journey through.
      So you want them to support the idea.
      As a parent, it’s the 1000 judgmental teenagers that would concern me the most. No parent wants their child picked on or bullied.
      Natural hair and the way it looks, feel and behavior hits home differently with different people.
      If your parents have reservations or “feel some kinda way” about natural hair, those reservations or feelings have to be discussed first.
      Then the person would need to associate positively with natural hair. This often require redefining what beauty means when it comes to hair to include the natural hair they see every single day in the mirror or their loved ones.
      After redefining, acceptance is follows and possibilities of actually going natural emerges.

      Transitioning is the easiest on the natural and her loved ones. Transitioning gives the loved ones a change to transition as well.
      Big chopping is more dramatic and gives no time to gradually process the changes as they happen.

      Our newsletter has alot of information that you will find helpful thorough you process.
      If your parents don’t support your decision to stop relaxing right now, you can ask if they support getting relaxers less often. This is called stretching. As you are stretching the time between your relaxers longer and longer.

      I look forward to an update about how it all worked out!

      Kira

  • Hello how are you?, my brother and I are both trying to go natural but me and him having problems. His hair is getting bald spots and he suffering from trying to have it grow. I had cut my hair a while ago and my top is long and my back is short. Ppl believe it won’t grow back at all but I don’t believe that. I use to think that having natural hair was not cool but now I want my hair to be longer and fuller. We have dry hair and it’s dull looking and lifeless. I understand what this article is saying but idk where to start for some reason because I process things differently. We heard that getting organic, unrefined, and cold pressed products are better. Is that true? How can I get my hair long and fuller like some natural ladies online? I cry because I don’t regret cutting my hair but I regret not keeping it as well. What products should my brother and I use? What is the best way to take care of our hair since it’s dull, lifeless, and dry. Please help me. 🙁

  • Hey,
    So, I have read this article last night and the comments, questions etc… so here’s mines.
    Since I was small growing up I’ve always had nice long naturally curly hair, no products needed. Then for my primary school graduation my mom permed my hair, and since then she has cut it and permed it, mainly because she liked short hair, which i hated but i had no say in my own hair. My hair got completed damaged from all its been through, like its tired of all of the torture, my hair never really had time to breathe. Now recently my mom said that I should cut of alllllllllll of my hair and go back natural smh. April 19th, I big chopped. To be honest, I hate,hate,hate! short hair on my face, my mom say its cute along with friends but, with me its different. My hair it coarse 4c hair now and my past hair dresser says it “suck’s moisture”. My hair seems to be growing slow, and I haven’t used any products but have ordered a set of Mizani hair products that are on there way here.

    I’m so lost, I don’t no what to do, how to start a regimen, or how to even style my hair that’s not even half of my pinky finger…PLZZ HELLPPP!!!!!

    • Hey Mieka,
      Thank you for your comment and I can definitely direct you in building a regimen and give you some advice on styling.
      Simply put, your regimen is what you do to your hair on a regular basis. For instance, when you were relaxed, you had a regimen.
      Big picture you simply went to the shop every 2 weeks or so. But the question is, what happened to your hair while there?
      Pretty much, the life or death of your hair was in your stylist’s hands. Everything that was used, the stylist choose for you.
      She choose the shampoo to cleanse your hair, she choose the conditioner to condition it, she decided if you needed any special
      or extra treatment and maybe you suggested what styled you wanted.
      Now, you are taking responsibility of your hair and you get to choose your products and how often.
      When it comes to products, I’m a huge fan of using what you got on hand. No need to buy anything new until it’s gone.
      If you were going to the shop every 2 weeks, start there while implementing your regimen and see how it works.
      Style of any kind is soooo personal and styling hair heavily depends on your creativity and your styling skills.
      Choose styles that are comfortable and easy for you. This may sound extremely cliche’ but seriously just be yourself and have fun!

      This was a great question. Be sure to join our newsletter!

      Kira

  • I want to let my hair out but after 10 minutes after letting my hair out it becomes all poofy, I’ve been doing research on my hair and trying to find ways to take care of my hair and have it like other people’s hair where they let their natural hair out and it stays perfect all day, can you help?

    • Hi Emma,
      When your hair poofs as a result of you walking outside, it is reacting to the humidity or the moisture in the air.
      When natural hair and moisture interact with each other, you should expect some type of reaction. The reaction can be poofyness or shrinkage.
      Frizz control products can help block the moisture, with the goal of eliminating the frizz. You will have to find the product that works best for your hair.
      Also, using products that have humectants in them like glycerin, attracts moisture the air and draws it to your hair.

      I hope this information is helpful to you!

      Kira

  • Im getting tired of nappy hair that wont grow and easily break Why do mix or other races hair grows long . I can see why black women with my hair type wear weave.

  • Hello,
    I’ve been natural(no relaxer) for about 5 years but in those 5 years I have consistently worn a weave never giving my natural hair time to breath or be treated. I have recently decided to give the weave a break and show my hair some TLC because it needs it badly. My hair is veryy thick and not short, it actually looks and feels a bit healthy until I blow dry it then it feels brittle and very dry. Also my edges are a big problem they are so thin and brittle. I am wondering what tips you have for someone who is not necessarily newly natural but transitioning from weave/braids?

    • Hi Rhonda,
      One of my biggest tips for new, regardless how long you have been without a relaxer is to make sure your protein and moisture is truly balanced.
      Since your hair has been in a weave style for the majority of the time, your hair will definitely benefit from protein. Specifically, hydrolyzed protein to help reconstruct and strengthen your hair strands.
      After you strengthen it with protein, moisturize to make it soft and pliable. Be sure to join the newsletter.
      Keep me updated on your progress and your decision-

      Kira

  • Well, I’m just saying thank you for the previous advice. So far on his journey I’ve successfully gone through 4 month and about 22 days of being natural. Now, at this very moment, my hair is about half my pinky finger or a lil more and I have then plat, pus my mom put some rubber bands in m hair (against the hairdressers wishes), oh, and my new hairdresser also died my hair black, because my hair is multi colored (black,brown & goldish red ), she also told me that all I needed to use was Wild Growth hair oil and keep plating my hair…and i think this artical is helpful not only to my hair but my skin…thank u

  • I been transitioning for 4 months now it’s going well. From the mid section of my head to the back already starting to curl. The front section is still kind of relaxed. What should I do any tips?

  • My hair is colored..I have been battling dry hair even before I got it colored (can’t find what works) but now it’s worse. It feels hard, especially at the ends. I have trimming some here and there but it is not helping. Could it be because I colored my hair, or could it just be dead ends? Please help!!!

  • I haven’t gone natural yet, but I’m planning too very soon. Right now I’m wearing box braids. Pretty much my whole life I have been doing braids relaxers and weaves. But now I want to go natural and I’m not sure exactly where to start. Should I start by trimming split ends, brushing it all through, moisturizing my scalp, cutting off all my relaxed ends?Between my weaves and braided hairstyles, when my hair is natural for a couple of days, Iv’e noticed that it breaks off a lot becomes flat (after I wash it) and is super dry and incredibly tangled. Should I brush my hair because it’s so tangley? Or should I not because it will tear it out? I’m so lost! HELP!

    • Hi there, I’m transitioning also and have been doing some extensive research which echoes the advice in the above article. I’d be happy to relay my experience to help you get started?

      My first step was, as you suggested, to get my split ends trimmed off. I went to a salon to get this done, and had about an inch taken off because it had been at least seven months since my last trim. As your hair grows on average 0.5 inches to 1 inch per month, if you are looking to transition without cutting all your hair off, I’d perhaps recommend getting your ends trimmed once every 3-4 months. You are essentially cutting off the relaxed hair bit, by bit, helping to maintain the health of your hair in the process until you do a big chop, and remove the rest in one go. This can take from 8 months – 2+ years depending on the person.

      To moisturise the scalp and hair, I would firstly lightly mist both with water (that I’d boiled to purify and allowed to cool prior). It is the water that provides the moisture/the hydrating element which is so important for the hair and helps to minimise breakage. I would then seal that moisture to my hair and scalp with an organic oil, such as virgin avocado or coconut oil (I use the latter because I love the aroma) or even virgin olive oil. You don’t need to use a lot – a little goes a long way. You can part your hair into sections to make this easier, make sure to use a wide-tooth comb to do this. When you are negotiating with two hair textures, standard brushes make it much more likely that your hair will break because of the fine teeth and their ability to snag at the point at which your natural and permed hair meet (the line of demarcation). This is detrimental to those trying to retain their current hair length. Finger detangling is also perfectly fine to separate your hair into sections as needed, and means you can better determine the level of force needed to pry apart your hair without risking misjudging it with a comb and ripping hair out!
      I would repeat the moisturising process as and when required – for me, I mist my hair with water everyday, and use the oil/water combo every other day so my hair can also produce its own natural sebums.

      Weaves and braided hairstyles are often cited to be great protective hairstyles, but they are also require a high level of manipulation (tugging, pulling, twisting etc) which can cause breakage. This is probably what you are seeing when you take out your weave/braids, along with hair that has naturally shedded. You may wish to consider low manipulation hairstyles which utilise only the hair on your head such as twist outs, bantu knots etc.

      I wonder, how are you washing your hair? If you hair is super-dry afterwards, your hair may have a high porosity (moisture enters as easily as it escapes) and so you may wish to try weekly deep-conditioning with a protein-based product, along with ensuring that moisture from the water is sealed with organic oils as outlined above.

      I hope this helps you (I know it was a while since you posted) and encourages you to keep going. Your hair will turn out great either way, and I am sure will look perfectly presentable in the meantime as you transition. Take care, A. 🙂

      • JN,

        Thanks for sharing your experience! Based on what you have shared, you are on the right track. I would like to also encourage you to use products that work best for your hair and that gives you the results you are looking for. A product that works great for one natural maybe completely wrong for another. So I encourage both you and A to experiment and let your hair decide what products you need to use or avoid.

        JN, I would love to see you on our community newsletter as well 🙂

        Kira

      • Thank You so much for the advice. I’m going to be going natural this week. I’m so nervous!
        So, you asked me how I wash my hair when it’s out of protective hairstyles. After I take my protective hairstyles out, I wash it with sulfate free shampoo and do a deep conditioner. After I’m done my hair always shrinks super short and I look so awkward. I put a bunch of oil in it and before I go to bed I put a headwrap on. In the morning even though I put a bunch of oil in my hair, my hair is super dry and extremely tangled AND extra flat.
        I heard of a trick for trimming hair. I don’t know if it works on 4c hair. The trick was to braid your hair in medium to large braids all over your head. The part of the braid that is thin and sparse is the part to cut off. Do you recommend doing this. The reason I ask is because there are not very many natural hair salons in the area that I live in and I don’t like spending money on hair unless it’s a really good hair product.
        After I boil the water for moisturizing my hair should I put it in a bottle right away or wait for it to cool? Do I have to boil water every time I want to moisturize my hair? And can I combine the oil and water in one spray bottle?
        Thanks again J N for the advice

        • A,
          This is an exciting time and I hope you enjoy it through your nervousness 🙂

          To reduce additional breakage after removing the protective style and reducing your tangles,
          try these steps in this order:
          1. remove protective style
          2. wet hair, add detangling conditioner that has slip and helps make detangling easier for you (ex.Herbal Essence Hydrolicious Reconditioning Conditioner, WEN 613, Aussie Moist Conditioner, Kinky Curly Knot Today, TRESsemme Naturals
          3. rub the conditioner thoroughly through your hair and the hair should start to become more pliable and less detangled.
          4. part the hair in 4 sections
          5. start from ends of your hair and detangle gently.
          6. after you have finished detangling, 2 strand twist your hair to let it air dry and to reduce tangles in the morning. Don’t just cover and lay down.

          When it comes to trimming, I personal only trim when needed. When I trim, I twist my hair in very small two strand twists and snip only the ends. I would not cut where it thins or become uneven because I could have braided or twisted uneven hair that causes it to look thin. If you need to trim, twist your hair in smaller twist and only snip the ends of each twist.

          I don’t suggest boiling water before using it on your hair, unless you typically boil water before you drink it. If your water needs to be purified before drinking, then boiling your water makes sense. But if boiling your water is not something you generally do, it’s an unnecessary step.

          If you would like additional help, join the Curl Centric Community and learn how to curate your own personal hair care regimen.

          Keep me posted on your progress!

          Kira

    • Also, I forgot to mention stay away from products with Petroleum Jelly, Mineral Oil (liquefied petroleum jelly), paraffin, silicones and sulfates to the best of your ability. A lot of products purporting to be good for our hair list one of the above as (among) the first ingredients in the product, but honestly it is a cheap bulking ingredient that offers no nutritional value to your hair whatsoever. They make for excellent barriers to moisture once applied on your hair/scalp but it’s also tantamount to wrapping yourself in cling film, not allowing your pores to breathe and to be hydrated by the water in the atmosphere.

    • A,

      Actually, you are in a great place because you don’t have to make a decision right now. You can take this time to research your options for your next move.

      Before you do anything, you need to decide if you want to big chop or transition to natural hair. If you are already experiencing breakage, don’t brush your hair. If you are not hydrating or moisturizing your hair while in braids or weave, that can explain the dryness you are experiencing. I would love it for you to join the community newsletter for more information that can help you along your natural hair journey.

      JN, offer some great advice as well from her experience also.

      When it comes to products and what to avoid, you have to use what works best for your hair and what gives you the results you are looking for. I definitely suggest using a protein conditioner like Aphogee 2 Minute and follow it with the Balancing Moisture Conditioner to help with the breakage. Depending on the placement of the breakage, it could the relax hair breaking off at the line of demarcation.

      Thanks for your question,

      Kira

  • I love this blog.
    it has all the info I needed to know
    and has corrected all the myths I often hear about natural hair.
    one question I have is please how to do I cater for my hair when it is in twist outs and because my scalp feels dry

    • Hi Musana!!

      Oh thank you- I happy we are able to make a difference in your journey and to debunk as many myths as we can!
      Catering to your hair in twists can be as complex or as simple as you’d like to make it.
      I, personally, opt for simple- LOL!
      So here is my simple- get a small spray bottle, fill it half-way with water, add your favorite oil, mine is almond oil.
      Shake vigorously and spray on the twist and on your scalp.
      Now if needed, add the oil directly to your scalp. Your scalp shouldn’t feel dry.
      The game changer in keeping the twists looking and feeling hydrated to me, is my satin cap. It is a MUST!
      Not using my satin cap makes my hair look and feel dry.

      Be sure to join the community HERE

      Kira

  • I have been natural for 16 yrs. I have recently cut off my locks about 2 mths ago, which were about down to the tip of my waist line. I realize that the weight has caused some balding areas as well as just stress on the hair that may take some time. This article is very helpful, however it speaks to growing the hair. I want to keep my hair short for a while its about 2 inches long. I am looking for something that can loosen my curls and shine my hair. I have been using Nu Expressions scalp care in a white and gold bottle. It smells really good and it makes my hair really soft. Still does not loosen the curl. By half way through the morning my hair is dry and has shrunk back to its original state. Any suggestions.

    • Hi Corey,
      Let me 1st encourage you to accept your hair regardless of your degree of tightness and learn to work with your hair vs against it.
      Now, there are products that are heavy for the hair and gives the appearence of loosening.
      A few products that comes to mind are: Marc Anthony Curl Stretch, Aunti Jackie’s Don’t Shrink, Design Essentials Curl Stretch.
      After I combed out my locs that I had for about 10 months, I experienced massive dryness.
      During my time of recovery getting my back to my normal, I incorporated Aphogee 2 Step Protein Treatments.
      The protein treatments temporarily filled in any cracks and missing hair cuticles so my hair would stay moisturized longer.
      Eventually, my hair turned back to my normal 🙂

      Kira

  • Hello. I absolutely love this website. i think i’ve been through all your posts already and comments. lol! I have them all saved and i’ve made my own notes. I can’t even start by describing my hair texture. I’m a 21 year old white girl, leaving in Seychelles. I was born with beautiful curly blonde hair (they called me Goldilocks back in my youth days). I was still so young, my mum was the one who always combed by hair to go to school in the mornings, by the time i was 10, my hair was really long and she got fed up with detangling. She decided straight hair was more manageable so she had my beautiful hair relaxed without even thinking about the concequences. We live next to the beach and here in Seychelles the weather is very hot and sunny, so you can imagine what that contributed to my hair. My hair was ruined. After a while she had it cut really short, but it never went back to the way it was. So she kept taking me to hairdressers to have it relaxed. After a while everyone kept criticising my hair, especially my family who doesn’t understand the struggle of it cause they have straight silky hair. Everyone always has something to say. I stoppped relaxing my hair about five years ago or so, and a hairdresser suggested i try out a relaxer perm. It was okay when it was done but after two weeks or so my hair would simply go back to the way it was. And then they suggested i do Keratin. The last time i’ve been to the hairdresser was in December 2015. I was so fustrated with my hair and poeple who didn’t understand that my hair is just simply damaged and dry and that no matter what i do in it, it will not go back to the way it was .EVER! So i decided to just stop everything and go natural. Ofcourse i had no idea what that meant! I had never dyed my hair so i decided this was my last chance to ever have my hair dyed if i wanted to go natural,and i was thinking it would be easier to distinguish between the damaged parts to the new growth. My natural hair is about four inches long now. And theres alot of breakage and shredding. To tell you the truth i was so scared. I kept asking myself, WHAT THE H*LL WERE YOU THINKING? lol. i went to yet another hairdresser who is considered good here in Seychelles and he suggested i do Keratin ( Thats what i heard) and my mum heard ( Carotine) ???? He told me to come back this week to have it done. But i won’t. i don’t want to dissapoint myself again. I havn’t chopped my hair yet. the right side is bra lengh and the left side is somewhere shorter and at the top of my head, well, it’s really short. all of it is shredded. i have to pin in when i go to work or school.Im just too scared to cut my hair even though i know i should. I don’t have the courage yet. But i’m really very happy i’ve stumbled upon your website. I feel more confident about my hair. Finally, i can stop feeling bad about my hair. Sometimes i just feel like i don’t fit in especially with Family. They just don’t understand how my hair is now. But i’ve made peace with it. I accept it now, all thanks to this website. So thank you… ALOT! Pease keep the posts coming. I wish i could send you a picture. Could you please advice on natural hair treatments i can do at home. Here in Seychelles, they don’t have good hair products or if they do, i don’t know which ones are good. Would be great if you could advice me!

    • Hi Ginette *waving all the way to Seychelles*

      Curls are curls, and all curls need love, care and attention so I am glad that you stumbled upon us, too!!

      Base on your comment, you sound as if you are in a good mental space right now with your hair and that is wonderful 🙂
      Also, it sounds as if you would like to have your hair back to what it was when you were younger and your comment reads as if you have come to a point where you don’t believe that is possible. And honestly, you may be right. However, that should not and I don’t believe it will stop you loving your hair at its current state and condition.
      Now, I won’t suggest that you cut your hair until you are ready. However, the positive aspect is that if you cut your hair, you’d
      only have to care for and style healthy curls vs. the alternative, what you are doing now. If you were to cut it, your journey will move forward because your hair’s need and your wants for your will change its pattern and require you change what you are doing.
      When it comes to “at home” treatments for damaged that you described, I recommend Aphogee 2 Step Protein Treatment and the Balancing Moisturizer Conditioner. The protein treatment is attracted to the damaged areas and is designed to fill in the damaged areas along each hair strand. The products can be purchased through Amazon.
      I’d love it if you’d join the Curl Centric Community and through there you can send me pics of your hair.

      #BeCurlCentric

      Kira

  • These are great tips! Another thing I would suggest is to get the
    Nutress Transitioning kit! This kit is really the best thing that works
    for my transitioning hair. One thing that I love about this brand is
    that they don’t make exaggerated claims and their products speak for
    themselves. Their formulas are effective but very gentle, which is
    perfect for Natural hair. Their protein treatment is also perfect for transitioners. It works wonders for my hair!

    • Hi Rashonda,
      Tell me more about your experience with the Nutress transitioning Kit.
      How long have you used it?
      What is your expected outcome?
      Has the product delivered on helping you achieve that outcome?

      We need more dets!

      Kira

  • I would like to say that I and all 4 of my daughters, which are all grown have natural hair. We do not use relaxers which strip and deplete the natural beauty of hair. I personally have found that cocoa butter (natural) is perfect for moisturizing my scalp and adding that luster to my hair as well as helping my hair to resist breakage and strengthening it. It has (my hair) grown by leaps and bounds. I suggest cocoa butter after shampooing. It also brings out the natural waves in my hair. I would not use anything else.

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