Roughly, 32 weeks ago, Jael and I started blogging.
At the time, we were completely unknown in the natural hair community and in the world of online blogging – but our number one goal was to help as many naturals as possible.
Privately, Jael has made this statement to me several times: “Kenneth, if I could, I would help every natural in the world.”
We both know that’s impossible, but it goes to show the amount of passion behind the Curl Centric blog.
Now, we’re starting to live our dream. We are working with naturals all over the world and they’re constantly emailing us about how much we’ve help them during their journey.
Every time we receive an email or comment about how something we did really helped them – it really makes us feel good and provides the fuel for us to continue writing articles and sharing information.
Unfortunately, we now live in a time were some people literally try to tear you down by posting inflammatory messages to you.
These people are “trolls” according to Wikipedia and represent what I call the dark side of the natural hair community on Twitter.
On the dark side, I mostly encounter two types of trolls on Twitter:
- The “Call You Out” Troll: The “call you out” troll is the person who waits for you to post something and immediately “calls you out” by challenging everything that you post.
- The “Public Shaming” Troll: The “public shaming” troll is the person who sends you a message solely for the purpose of trying to embarrass you.
I will provide two common examples of issues that I encounter on Twitter. I call them common examples, because these are things that happen nearly every day on Twitter.
Example #1: I recently tweeted a link to one of our most popular articles called, “What Men Really Think About Natural Hair”.
Almost immediately, someone calls me out of Twitter.
Their response was, “You must mean what YOU think about natural hair, because YOU can’t speak for all men. I hate it when someone thinks they’re smarter than everyone else.”
This lady went on to barrage me by calling me a few names.
I ended up having to block her. I didn’t even know you could block people until just recently, but I digress.
Example #2: Just a few days ago, I tweeted “transitioning is the mental and physical journey you go through as a result of no longer relaxing your hair”.
Again, nearly immediately, someone replied with the following comment: “That [four letter word] is not mental. I did not give a [four letter word] when I went natural. I just stopped getting relaxers…”
I told her that many women struggle with the process of going natural. Additionally, several women do not receive support from their spouse, family members or friends during their journey.
Those things are undoubtedly mentally taxing on the individual going through it.
This lady responded by saying, “I’ll give you that.”
So, once I explained my tweet – she agreed.
These types of messages and comments fill-up my Twitter inbox.
I would honestly rather spend my time helping people, but I have to spend a significant amount of time filtering through messages like these from “trolls”.
This post wasn’t written to make you feel sorry for me.
You probably know by now that I like to be transparent, informative and truthful when I write for the blog. I’m not sure what I expected when Jael and I started blogging, but I now see the dark side of the natural hair community.
Why do some people spend all of their time being negative – when we’re really trying to do something positive?
I will probably never know, but I greatly appreciate each one of you who have been supportive during the process of building the Curl Centric blog.